How to Have Masturbation-Free Meetings...Seriously.
Many things go viral on the internet — Drake memes, cat videos, and in the era of COVID-19, videos of men masturbating on Zoom calls in front of stunned colleagues.
One such video wound up in a Whatsapp group I’m a member of, and once it became apparent what I was looking at, I turned my gaze to the reactions of said masturbator’s colleagues. Naturally, reactions ranged from shocked and bemused, to fits of uncontrollable laughter.
I also found myself laughing, not just because of the accidental public display of self-gratification, but because there were 24 other people on the call.
This man’s life was no doubt turned upside down because of a meeting that probably didn’t need to happen. In most but the rarest cases, a 25-person Zoom call or face-to-face meeting is usually an expensive waste of time.
The Folly of Large Meetings
As Paul Axtell wrote for Harvard Business Review, when you have more than eight people at a meeting:
- There isn’t enough time for everyone to participate
- Rich back and forth debate is replaced by shallow comments
- People become more guarded and less candid
- Tough topics and decisions are dealt with off-line instead
Not only that, but a 25-person one-hour-long meeting is a 25-hour meeting in terms of the cost to the company.
Such meetings are likely to fall victim to groupthink, and the highest-paid person or most dominant person’s opinion, at the expense of the optimal decision.
It’s unlikely that every person at the meeting is equally, or even partly invested in the topic at hand.
As a result, and most critically, the majority of people — already suffering from meeting and Zoom fatigue — are likely to be present only in word and not deed.
If they’re not masturbating, they’re quietly working away on something else, or catching up on their Twitter feed, or secretly swiping right on Tinder.
Two Types of Meetings
Most internal meetings tend to fall in either one of two buckets; decision-making or information-transfer.
As I wrote for Harvard Business Review, most decisions don’t require meetings, let alone meetings with 25 people present (which actually makes it almost impossible to decide or come to an optimal decision).
While organizations are small, decisions tend to get made quickly. But as headcount and revenue grow, trust evaporates and there is more to lose, so a risk-averse culture emerges that begins to treat all decisions as make-or-break.
We seek consensus and outsource accountability, instead of making decisions with conviction. This not only destroys innovation but also destroys employee morale and results in workplace stress — something that is tied to autonomy, control, and fast feedback loops. It’s no wonder that 85% of people are either not engaged or actively disengaged at work.
Amazon’s Jeff Bezos delineates between what he calls Type 1 and Type 2 decisions.
Type 1 decisions are big, hairy, irreversible, and high-stakes. Type 2 decisions are reversible. If you screw up, you can make amends without too much, if any, harm having been caused.
Most of our decisions are Type 2 decisions, and they should be made quickly. The fewer decisions that are treated as Type 1 decisions, the less time we spend in meetings, and the more time we empower our people to get sh*t done.
Unless we’re communicating a significant shift in our organization’s strategy, or something almost existential to the firm, most forms of information transfer don’t require a meeting — they can be communicated through email, Slack, Teams, or a company intranet.
An over-reliance on meetings to communicate information comes at the expense of people’s time — something that is already at a premium what with the default response to “how are you?” today being “busy, crazy busy!” — and at the expense of building a culture of asynchronous communication.
The reality is that most things don’t require an immediate response. For most things, a one-way email or instant message should do the job, with the recipient responding when it suits them. Aside from the obvious and massive benefit of giving knowledge workers time for focus and to spend more time in the flow state, asynchronous communication predisposes people to making better decisions by increasing the time between stimulus and response. The better the decisions of our people, the better off our companies are in the long term.
Other benefits of asynchronous communication include being able to hire across different time-zones and accessing the global talent pool — something that is more relevant now than ever before.
Four Steps to Masturbation Free Meetings
Given all of this, and given that it was unlikely any legitimate work was being done during this meeting, one can hardly blame said masturbator for wanting to make more productive use of his time — especially given the health benefits of masturbation…. but he should have at least turned the camera off!
Don’t want your colleagues to be masturbating during calls?
- Keep meetings as short as possible — short meetings are unlikely to have your colleagues seeking out other ways to pass the significant waste of time they’re otherwise faced with (15 to 30 minutes should do in most cases if you are clear about what needs to be discussed and what the desired outcomes are)
- Invite relevant stakeholders only — stop defaulting to toxic cultural norms like inviting every man, woman and their dog to a meeting, in order to communicate trivial matters or outsource accountability should something go wrong. Be intentional and invite only people who have something significant to contribute and/or learn to the meeting. Try to cap the meeting to four people.
- Make it OK to decline — as Roman philosopher Seneca said, “people are frugal with guarding their property, but not their time”, and 2,000 years later, this holds up in the working world where people feel obligated to accept almost all meeting invites. People have other priorities and should feel comfortable declining meeting invites, with the onus being on the meeting organizer to sell why attendance is required.
- Have a clear agenda — if it seems like there’s a whole lot of waffling going on, and little forward momentum or progress being made towards tangible objectives in a meeting, participants will naturally switch off. Most meetings can benefit simply from having a clear agenda, capturing actions, due dates, and responsible persons.
Anything short of this is not only a waste of valuable employee time, but speaks to a toxic consensus-seeking, hyper-responsive, and hyper-distracted company culture — one that’s unlikely to steer the company forward in a 21st Century that is increasingly calling for autonomy, speed, and asynchronous communication.
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