What I Learned About Life from Trying Standup Comedy
Try One New Thing a Month
This has been my mantra for several years now, and it has seen me try all manner of things, from rock-climbing and surfing to a barista course and learning the art of whisky making, to jumping out of planes and trying hip-hop yoga. I’ve found that trying new things to get out of your comfort zone helps keep your ego in check, strengthens your relationship with adversity, and above all, increases your appreciation of life.
In retrospect, it’s not the comfortable times that we remember, the times we find ourselves sitting on the couch watching Netflix. No, we remember doing things that were marred by friction; we remember the uncomfortable — the long, painful hike, getting wiped out by a huge wave, or giving a talk in front of 500 people for the first time. Greatness is reserved for people who are comfortable with adversity, so the more comfortable you can get being uncomfortable, the more likely you will be to take the steps required towards said greatness.
Starting the Future Squared podcast over three years ago was initially about getting out of my comfort zone (and marketing), but it has evolved into so much more, and has become a fantastic outlet to meet and learn from people from across all sorts of domains, such as technology, neuroscience, economics, and comedy. I had the pleasure of interviewing both Arj Barkerand Steve Hughes, two prominent names on the Australian comedy circuit, the former selling out Melbourne’s 1,000 seat Athenaeum Theatre throughout the Melbourne International Comedy Festival. Their stories, upon reflection, remind me of the entrepreneurial journey — marred by perseverance in the face of sweat, dust, and rejection.
Given my growing appreciation for standup comedy, and the bottomless inspiration I found at my local comedy club, the Comic’s Lounge, and countless Netflix specials, I decided to give it a shot.
What’s the Worst That Could Happen?
At the very least, I might learn some new things, meet some new people, overcome that little voice in my head that was screaming “don’t do this — this is gonna hurt!”, and maybe, just maybe, get a laugh or two. I wasn’t looking to become a household name, let alone a recognizable face on the local open mic circuit. Mostly, I was just wanting to become a wee bit funnier so that I could incorporate some more humor into my podcast, keynote talks and my workshops.
Initially, I turned to a standup comedy Masterclass, facilitated by the delightful Steve Martin, before devouring ‘Do You Talk Funny’, a book by David Nihil. Then, I felt ready to start writing my own material and make, not a running start, but a walking with both feet wobbling at the knees start, which I hoped would resonate enough with audiences to give me the confidence to keep going after the first, nerve-racking set.
I did five five-minute sets at the following open mic nights in Melbourne, as part of my experiment:
- The Vault, Yarraville
- The Imperial, Melbourne City
- Apartment 29, St Kilda
- Dancing Dog Cafe, Footscray x 2
I got some laughs, lots of blank stares, and bombed big-time on one occasion with material that I thought was golden, but I took lots of learnings out of the experience about not only standup comedy, but life more broadly.
Just Some Things I Learned about Standup Comedy
- Set up an assumption in the audience’s mind… then shatter it
- Use the rule of three
- Use taglines
- Iteration and culling is key — one should not be afraid to ‘kill your children’
- It can take hours of written and tested material to put together a killer 5 to 10-minute set
- Some of the best comedians are actually not that funny naturally, and more of then than not, their new material barely gets a laugh — it’s the ongoing iteration that turns a rock into a diamond
- Like in creativity and innovation, the more dots you collect, the funnier you can become because you’ve got a lot more material to work with
- Everything has a formula — so does comedy — but that doesn’t make it any easier
- Due to evolutionary survival instincts, doing standup in front of 20 people (at least for me), is way tougher, and anxiety-inducing, than delivering a keynote in front of 500 people
- Stand up is essentially like a microcosm for life — you try, you fail, you learn, you iterate, and so on…
- Delivery is crucial, as is the order of your words
- Things always sound much better in front of the mirror than in front of a crowd
- Focus on what you know
What I Learned about Life
- Be authentic and vulnerable and you are much more likely to resonate with your audience
- What you are convinced is funny and what people think is funny are not necessarily the same thing — the same holds true in entrepreneurship when it comes to your products
- Make sure the audience aligns with your material, or you might fail, not because your material sucks, but because your audience isn’t a good fit (or your material might just suck)
- Set realistic goals— I defined a win as having the balls to get up and try; if I defined a win as having the audience in stitches, then I would’ve considered each one of my performances a devastating failure, and probably would have given up after one gig
- You need to be comfortable with who you are to do scary things because you know that despite the outcome, you derive a sense of self-worth from within, and a full room of silent onlookers, won’t be enough to shatter your sense of self
- Most anxiety is unwarranted — as Mark Twain is believed to have said, “‘I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened” — you might feel pangs of anxiety leading up to a standup performance, but once you’re up there it quickly dissipates as adrenaline and presence takes over, leaving you buzzing afterward no matter how well or poorly you performed
- Use as few words as possible to get your point across
Putting Learnings into Action
After the experiment, I found myself on the road, delivering a workshop for a client in outback Queensland, where I used what I had learned to tell the following joke to open the day.
My colleague asked me if I wanted to do a gig in Roma.
Naturally, I said “Roma, hell yeah! When do I leave?”
Then he said, “not Roma, Italy…Roma, Queensland…in the outback!”
I thought…..even better!
It got everybody laughing, and set the tone for a fun day ahead.
A little bit of humor can go a long way, to not only making what you do entertaining, but also memorable, and effective.
Not done standup before? Try it… what’s the worst that could happen?